ha, if there's even a bit of hesitation, then somebody better call DYFS.
Morality of Fandom vs Family
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That happened to me several years ago during the USA-Ghana World Cup match in 2010. I was a groomsman in my buddies wedding which happened to be during the match. We were luckily sitting down in one of the pews and the groomsman next to me had the game on his iPhone via Slingbox. USA tied it up via the PK right when they announced the newly married couple, so my applause didn't stand out too much
Thanks all. A couple of thoughts.
- Actually writing the questions and imagining them on this thread did make it pretty clear what the answer was. But I decided to publish anyway.
- I'm glad I did. I'm actually fascinated and surprised at how one sided it is. I suppose that's heartwarming.
- I think that while this conversation has been pretty one-sided, it makes me curious what the breaking point is. What if it was her 27th recital of the year vs MLS Cup final? What if it was her 12th recital vs our 12th game? Does it matter if she has a solo or is part of the chorus? I'm fascinated by the philosophical choices.
Attend 15 (of first 16) games and be invited to an open practice at season end.
Attend (first) 16 games and be invited to open practice plus get on field recognition at last game.
I wonder if they'll even follow up about this come October. If anyone remembers. #TheCityRemembers
#1 Your Daughter still likes you, the hormones probably haven't kicked in yet and she's not a teenager , enjoy this time with her lol
#2 If you've been to many recitals and it's the Cup final-Cup final, unless she's playing Carnegie Hall or some other once in a lifetime thing.
#3 Chorus/ solo -doesn't matter , be there if she wants you there-see #1
I reckon this is when ones prioritization skills come into play.
At eleven years of age (or abouts), I still believe you stick with your daughter whether or not it's the 12th or 27th recital.
If she were around 20-ish or so, then I believe "Honey, I'm sure you'll understand" is definitely on the table.
I went to a soccer game on Mother's Day once. Still paying for it.
Mls cup all the way no question. Lol
Or you can give me the tix again- I wouldnt mind - I promise the pleasure would be all mine.
I'm a massive San Jose Sharks fan. Watched all my life, pretty much since their entrance into the league in 91.
I told my girlfriend (now wife) through our entire relationship that if we were ever going to marry and our wedding conflicted with a Sharks Stanley Cup game, she would have to understand where my priorities were.
Fast forward six years. Sharks make the Final for the first time in their 25 year history. Final schedule is typically every other day. Except for one game where they had two days between games. Played a game on Thursday June 9th, my wedding was on June 11th and the next game was on June 12th.
A lifetime of joking about the possibility of that overlap and it was within 24 hours of ACTUALLY happening haha
Now I'm not saying I was going to ditch the wedding for it, but I would have been extremely distracted...
I told my girlfriend (now wife) through our entire relationship that if we were ever going to marry and our wedding conflicted with a Sharks Stanley Cup game, she would have to understand where my priorities were.
Fast forward six years. Sharks make the Final for the first time in their 25 year history. Final schedule is typically every other day. Except for one game where they had two days between games. Played a game on Thursday June 9th, my wedding was on June 11th and the next game was on June 12th.
A lifetime of joking about the possibility of that overlap and it was within 24 hours of ACTUALLY happening haha
Now I'm not saying I was going to ditch the wedding for it, but I would have been extremely distracted...
Not going to lie, this was my thought, too.
The kid will be fine either way, I'm sure. The real issue is with the wife.
This is definitely the interesting question.
Also important, how good and how dedicated is she? What's her temperament?
I also wonder how much people are influenced by social norms in how they respond to this predicament. I bet it's not an insignificant number of people who say and would even do one thing, even if it's not their first choice, just because it's the "right thing" to do.
Wasn't there some whole book or theory out in the not too distant past about how it's total bullshit that we let our kids dictate our lives entirely and that's how we end up with these entitled, "I'm so special" shitbirds we have running about now (all of youse kids excepted, of course)? Don't recall the specifics, but I'm pretty sure that's what it said.
That's funny. Shitbird was a close second when we were debating nicknames for my daughter.
For the record, I was going to leave the post just at the line above. But lately I've been doubting that the full forum understands my sardonic humor.
I Beg your pardon but What The Hell Is This Mean??FootyLovin I suggest that you compromise and just wear the Pirlo sign to the concert.
