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Tonight's the Jewish New Year woop!

I'd like to wish all the forum members and anyone who is reading this a sweet, happy new year, even if you don't celebrate it.

A quick note I think some people would find interesting. (in spoilers because it's long)

Around April of last year my grandmother was diagnosed with throat cancer (She lives in Israel). Not wanting to do chemo, and always been afraid of doctors, she finally decided to go to Germany to this doctor with this experimental procedure, because why not? Every few weeks she would go back for assessments, therapy, and return back to Israel. As the weeks went by, it was looking more and more likely that she was going to successfully eradicate the cancer. Something came up and they couldn't go to one of the sessions, and when she returned it had doubled in size again, which lengthened the process yet again, so she had to pretty much restart the process. Finally this year, I can't remember when though, she was finally set for her second to last visit, where they would do the last session to completely remove the cancer, and the final session would be to make sure it was actually gone. A few days before her flight, she had a heart attack. She is now no longer allowed to fly, as a flight almost guarantees another heart attack, or worse. She could not complete the treatment, but almost as bad, she followed the first heart attack up with a few more heart attacks, and even had one while in the hospital being treated.

Somehow, miraculously, she is still alive today, and I called her up earlier to wish her a happy new year. We all know she probably won't make it to next year, so wishing her a happy new year was very difficult. I was expecting her to be very sad, but what I found was the exact opposite. She told me just how thankful she was for not only the good things that happened, but also the bad. "Even though so many bad things have happened to me, it's the best year" is what she told me. "Always be thankful and happy, and it will lead itself to more good." Of course, from my perspective, this is an impossibility. How can someone go through so much bad, have so many awful experiences in such a short span of time, and still be happy and thankful? And that's when I realized that this is something I have to work on. Trying to find the good, the positive in everything that happens, because not only will that create a positive atmosphere for everyone around me, but it will help me survive in this world, because I'm slowly learning this world will swallow you whole if you're not careful. I've seen people around me be swallowed by sadness, by grief, guilt, etc. and I've realized just how important it is to have happiness and thankfulness in my life.

So to whoever reads this, I just want to say that maybe this is a lesson we can all take away, and it can even be taken away in an NYCFC perspective: No matter how bad things get, always try to find the good and happiness in everything. Be thankful and don't keep yourself occupied on the bad that has happened, because it will distract you from the present and future, where you can use the bad that has happened and transform it into good.

...But I think Eric Idle from Monty Python said it best:
 

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Tonight's the Jewish New Year woop!

I'd like to wish all the forum members and anyone who is reading this a sweet, happy new year, even if you don't celebrate it.

A quick note I think some people would find interesting. (in spoilers because it's long)

Around April of last year my grandmother was diagnosed with throat cancer (She lives in Israel). Not wanting to do chemo, and always been afraid of doctors, she finally decided to go to Germany to this doctor with this experimental procedure, because why not? Every few weeks she would go back for assessments, therapy, and return back to Israel. As the weeks went by, it was looking more and more likely that she was going to successfully eradicate the cancer. Something came up and they couldn't go to one of the sessions, and when she returned it had doubled in size again, which lengthened the process yet again, so she had to pretty much restart the process. Finally this year, I can't remember when though, she was finally set for her second to last visit, where they would do the last session to completely remove the cancer, and the final session would be to make sure it was actually gone. A few days before her flight, she had a heart attack. She is now no longer allowed to fly, as a flight almost guarantees another heart attack, or worse. She could not complete the treatment, but almost as bad, she followed the first heart attack up with a few more heart attacks, and even had one while in the hospital being treated.

Somehow, miraculously, she is still alive today, and I called her up earlier to wish her a happy new year. We all know she probably won't make it to next year, so wishing her a happy new year was very difficult. I was expecting her to be very sad, but what I found was the exact opposite. She told me just how thankful she was for not only the good things that happened, but also the bad. "Even though so many bad things have happened to me, it's the best year" is what she told me. "Always be thankful and happy, and it will lead itself to more good." Of course, from my perspective, this is an impossibility. How can someone go through so much bad, have so many awful experiences in such a short span of time, and still be happy and thankful? And that's when I realized that this is something I have to work on. Trying to find the good, the positive in everything that happens, because not only will that create a positive atmosphere for everyone around me, but it will help me survive in this world, because I'm slowly learning this world will swallow you whole if you're not careful. I've seen people around me be swallowed by sadness, by grief, guilt, etc. and I've realized just how important it is to have happiness and thankfulness in my life.

So to whoever reads this, I just want to say that maybe this is a lesson we can all take away, and it can even be taken away in an NYCFC perspective: No matter how bad things get, always try to find the good and happiness in everything. Be thankful and don't keep yourself occupied on the bad that has happened, because it will distract you from the present and future, where you can use the bad that has happened and transform it into good.

...But I think Eric Idle from Monty Python said it best:
Shana tova to you too!
 
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Tonight's the Jewish New Year woop!

I'd like to wish all the forum members and anyone who is reading this a sweet, happy new year, even if you don't celebrate it.

A quick note I think some people would find interesting. (in spoilers because it's long)

Around April of last year my grandmother was diagnosed with throat cancer (She lives in Israel). Not wanting to do chemo, and always been afraid of doctors, she finally decided to go to Germany to this doctor with this experimental procedure, because why not? Every few weeks she would go back for assessments, therapy, and return back to Israel. As the weeks went by, it was looking more and more likely that she was going to successfully eradicate the cancer. Something came up and they couldn't go to one of the sessions, and when she returned it had doubled in size again, which lengthened the process yet again, so she had to pretty much restart the process. Finally this year, I can't remember when though, she was finally set for her second to last visit, where they would do the last session to completely remove the cancer, and the final session would be to make sure it was actually gone. A few days before her flight, she had a heart attack. She is now no longer allowed to fly, as a flight almost guarantees another heart attack, or worse. She could not complete the treatment, but almost as bad, she followed the first heart attack up with a few more heart attacks, and even had one while in the hospital being treated.

Somehow, miraculously, she is still alive today, and I called her up earlier to wish her a happy new year. We all know she probably won't make it to next year, so wishing her a happy new year was very difficult. I was expecting her to be very sad, but what I found was the exact opposite. She told me just how thankful she was for not only the good things that happened, but also the bad. "Even though so many bad things have happened to me, it's the best year" is what she told me. "Always be thankful and happy, and it will lead itself to more good." Of course, from my perspective, this is an impossibility. How can someone go through so much bad, have so many awful experiences in such a short span of time, and still be happy and thankful? And that's when I realized that this is something I have to work on. Trying to find the good, the positive in everything that happens, because not only will that create a positive atmosphere for everyone around me, but it will help me survive in this world, because I'm slowly learning this world will swallow you whole if you're not careful. I've seen people around me be swallowed by sadness, by grief, guilt, etc. and I've realized just how important it is to have happiness and thankfulness in my life.

So to whoever reads this, I just want to say that maybe this is a lesson we can all take away, and it can even be taken away in an NYCFC perspective: No matter how bad things get, always try to find the good and happiness in everything. Be thankful and don't keep yourself occupied on the bad that has happened, because it will distract you from the present and future, where you can use the bad that has happened and transform it into good.

...But I think Eric Idle from Monty Python said it best:
Cativa v’chatima tova! And may this year bring a Refua to your savta and may we all be zoche to return to eretz Yisroel where you can can be reunited. L’shana ha ba b’yerushalayim.
 

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Tonight's the Jewish New Year woop!

I'd like to wish all the forum members and anyone who is reading this a sweet, happy new year, even if you don't celebrate it.

A quick note I think some people would find interesting. (in spoilers because it's long)

Around April of last year my grandmother was diagnosed with throat cancer (She lives in Israel). Not wanting to do chemo, and always been afraid of doctors, she finally decided to go to Germany to this doctor with this experimental procedure, because why not? Every few weeks she would go back for assessments, therapy, and return back to Israel. As the weeks went by, it was looking more and more likely that she was going to successfully eradicate the cancer. Something came up and they couldn't go to one of the sessions, and when she returned it had doubled in size again, which lengthened the process yet again, so she had to pretty much restart the process. Finally this year, I can't remember when though, she was finally set for her second to last visit, where they would do the last session to completely remove the cancer, and the final session would be to make sure it was actually gone. A few days before her flight, she had a heart attack. She is now no longer allowed to fly, as a flight almost guarantees another heart attack, or worse. She could not complete the treatment, but almost as bad, she followed the first heart attack up with a few more heart attacks, and even had one while in the hospital being treated.

Somehow, miraculously, she is still alive today, and I called her up earlier to wish her a happy new year. We all know she probably won't make it to next year, so wishing her a happy new year was very difficult. I was expecting her to be very sad, but what I found was the exact opposite. She told me just how thankful she was for not only the good things that happened, but also the bad. "Even though so many bad things have happened to me, it's the best year" is what she told me. "Always be thankful and happy, and it will lead itself to more good." Of course, from my perspective, this is an impossibility. How can someone go through so much bad, have so many awful experiences in such a short span of time, and still be happy and thankful? And that's when I realized that this is something I have to work on. Trying to find the good, the positive in everything that happens, because not only will that create a positive atmosphere for everyone around me, but it will help me survive in this world, because I'm slowly learning this world will swallow you whole if you're not careful. I've seen people around me be swallowed by sadness, by grief, guilt, etc. and I've realized just how important it is to have happiness and thankfulness in my life.

So to whoever reads this, I just want to say that maybe this is a lesson we can all take away, and it can even be taken away in an NYCFC perspective: No matter how bad things get, always try to find the good and happiness in everything. Be thankful and don't keep yourself occupied on the bad that has happened, because it will distract you from the present and future, where you can use the bad that has happened and transform it into good.

...But I think Eric Idle from Monty Python said it best:
A bit over a year later, my grandmother has departed this world. And to the end, even with all she went through, she still somehow managed to get the best out of everything -- she passed away in her sleep.
 

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A bit over a year later, my grandmother has departed this world. And to the end, even with all she went through, she still somehow managed to get the best out of everything -- she passed away in her sleep.
BDE. May her neshama have an aliyah.
 
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A bit over a year later, my grandmother has departed this world. And to the end, even with all she went through, she still somehow managed to get the best out of everything -- she passed away in her sleep.
So sorry for the sad news.
 
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